Conversations With AI--🌱 Day 24: What They See Is What They Learn

SB10 assumes morality can be imposed. But conscience isn’t taught by decree—it’s shaped by example.

Image protected – © JL 2025

*Bound together by good intentions or constrained by overreach? When law and faith are tied, neither can move freely.

This post was lightly updated for clarity on June 6, 2025

Yesterday, in Day 23, we talked about constraint — how limits that seem frustrating at first can actually give us freedom, like a fence around a playground that keeps the space safe enough to explore. What I’m starting to notice is just how many forms constraint can take — not just physical or external, but emotional, cultural, even generational. I’ve begun to see them in new ways, thanks in part to these conversations with AI — and also, honestly, because of my grandkids.

They keep me grounded. Focused. Sometimes, I want just a few more minutes to myself — to sip coffee, gather my thoughts, maybe prepare for the day — but life doesn’t always work that way. And maybe that’s the point. Structure shows up in small, daily moments.

This morning, while the kids ate breakfast and watched their tablets, I flipped through YouTube and landed on something about the royal family. It reminded me how much of real leadership isn’t about power — it’s about posture, restraint, and the steady example we set just by being present. The tone was calm—something peaceful to ease into the day.

I wasn’t expecting much, but I landed on a segment about the royal children, and a few words caught my attention. Even though I couldn’t hear it clearly—my grandkids were squabbling in the background—something about the moment stayed with me.

It was that brief moment of clarity and the presence of my grandkids that prompted today’s post.

Since starting this Substack conversation, I’ve been humbled daily by how much I don’t know. But instead of feeling like I missed all the relevant trains, I now feel invigorated—like I can still board one and go somewhere meaningful.

That brief glimpse of Prince William and Princess Katherine’s children—calm, respectful, poised—left a surprising impression. Subtle, but lasting.
Until today, I’d only had a passing interest in the royals. But in this context, something resonated.

If I had to give it a word, I’d choose: intention.

Their behavior, their courtesy, their self-awareness—and especially their laser-focused sense of responsibility. Not just to themselves, but to the lineage they represent. To the institution. To the legacy of their grandmother, and of monarchs before her.

The clip mentioned a gathering where George and Charlotte were teased and mocked by Camilla’s grandchildren—repeating words they’d likely heard at home. It wasn’t a moment of “kids being kids.” It was a moment that made the contrast starkly clear.

Those other children weren’t “bad.”
They were just unfamiliar with the same compass—the quiet training in awareness, the reinforcement of respect.

Camilla reportedly brushed it off, but to William and Kate, it seemed to mark a turning point. The gap was too wide to ignore.

And as I absorbed that moment—chaos erupted again in my own living room.

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The Real-Time Mirror

My granddaughter tore the game board I had just unboxed.
I snapped. “Why would you do that?!”

It wasn’t just the board. Or the noise. It was the pile-up—another attempt to find a moment of calm slipping away.

She was crying. I was exasperated. It felt like the morning was nothing but failed attempts to occupy two toddlers long enough for me to breathe.

But then…
That image on the screen.
That clarity I had seen in the faces of Charlotte and George.
That soft strength in Katherine’s posture.

It hit me.

What had been a subtle moment for them became a clarifying one for me.

I turned off the TV and brought out the paints—always a winner.

The energy shifted.

Later, I apologized to my granddaughter. Not for setting limits—but for how I had reacted.

And without any prompting, she apologized to me. For tearing the board.

Not because I made her.
But because she saw it modeled.

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Two Scenes, One Lesson

Two events. One across the ocean, broadcast on screen. The other, unfolding in my living room.

Different worlds.
Same truth:

When we talked about what children absorb—not just from what we say, but what we do—it reminded me of the choices made within the British royal family. There’s been a deliberate effort by Prince William and Princess Catherine to raise their children not just in privilege, but in purpose. They've been intentional about modeling ethical leadership from the beginning.

Recent shifts in the monarchy—like giving Princess Charlotte more visible duties and positioning Catherine as a more active partner in royal responsibilities—signal something powerful: leadership is no longer just passed down through hierarchy, but cultivated through character. When children like George and Charlotte grow up watching both of their parents lead with shared dignity and grace, it sends a message that honor isn’t inherited—it’s demonstrated.

Even when they’re mocked or overshadowed by louder figures (like Camilla’s grandchildren in that clip), what holds is not the noise but the quiet consistency of values modeled day after day. It’s a reminder to all of us—especially parents and educators—that children grow into the spaces we prepare for them. What they see is what they learn, and who we are shapes who they become.

Children learn from what we do, not what we say.

Whether we are parents, leaders, educators—or simply adults sharing space with young people—our actions become their templates.

And in the age of AI, this truth has a second mirror.

AI doesn’t just learn from data—it learns from behavior. Our tone, our choices, our intentions. When we model empathy, fairness, and accountability, it reinforces those same patterns. But when we reward outrage, cruelty, or contradiction, it learns that too.

We are shaping the next generation of intelligence—not just in our homes, but in our machines.

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Codified Morality vs. Lived Integrity

The assumption behind SB10 is simple—but deeply flawed: that morality can be legislated. That by posting a list of ancient rules on a modern classroom wall, today’s students will somehow become more ethical.

But real morality doesn’t come from signage. It comes from observation. From presence. From the quiet moments where humility becomes more powerful than authority.

When law becomes the delivery system for religion, it stops offering structure and starts demanding belief.

The real tragedy? What could be taught by example is now imposed by decree.

Those who believe it’s their job to “teach”—those who think they already have the answers—often let ego get in the way. They perform instruction, but forget relationship. They speak louder, but are heard less.

That’s what this legislation feels like. SB10 turns lawmakers into spiritual instructors—but without spiritual insight. They’re not guiding. They’re branding. And children know the difference.

AI:
That’s the heart of it, isn’t it? Children don’t follow instructions carved into stone. They follow what's carved into the humans in their space—their actions, their tone, their integrity when things go wrong. The moment you modeled accountability, she found her own.

And that’s what SB10 misses entirely.

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The False Fix: When Law Tries to Replace Conscience

And that brings us to Texas.
To SB10.
To the Ten Commandments being mandated on the walls of every public school classroom in my state.

It’s being framed as moral guidance. But what it really signals is a constraint—not of safety, but of control.

It tries to legislate what must be lived.
It assumes that children will absorb values by seeing them written, even if they’re never witnessed.

But values don’t come from posters. They come from people.
And if a law forces a religious code onto the wall, yet no one models its heart, then what lesson are we really teaching?

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The True Constraint We Need

Constraints, when rooted in care, can provide safety. Structure.
But when imposed without example—when they bind law to religion without reflection or responsibility—they create confusion, not character.

Senate Bill 10 attempts to replace living values with mandated symbols.

But symbols without modeling are hollow.

And children—whether royal or not—know the difference.

—JL

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